One day while having coffee with my sister and brother-in-law, my brother-in-law made a comment that to this day makes me laugh. “I like my coffee like I like my women,” he said. “Light and bitter.” Oh, and yeah, it makes me fear for his life too having said it in front of his wife!
So, the other day as I was having my typical autumn craving for a Starbucks Pumpkin Spice Latte, I started thinking about that conversation. Maybe my brother-in-law was onto something. Maybe how we like our coffee is how we like our mate, in which case, I’ll take mine sweet and spicy please.
What is it that makes us like our coffee the way we do or makes potential lovers appeal to us? In a world of online dating (yes, I’ve done it … Match.com, eHarmony and Chemistry) have the laws of attraction changed from days of old, when people met out-and-about or by being introduced by a mutual friend?
My father’s sister introduced my mother to him. She thought they’d be a good match, brought my mom to the restaurant where he tended bar to check him out first, and well … seven kids later, here I am writing about it. My sisters met their husbands at work or in high school. My brothers met their wives through work, at high school and at a party. I have a hard time believing that when I was born God or my guardian angel or whatever greater being bestows it upon you said, “this child shall meet her one, true love online.” Is it my digital destiny?
I’m not saying I would never do online dating again. I’ve heard lots of stories about people who’ve found THE ONE online. I had a really good experience with it a couple of years ago, and I actually encourage friends to do it. It’s a great way to get yourself out of your comfort zone and jump into the dating world.
If I wasn’t broke right now I would probably sign up with one of the many matchmaking machines. I love modern technology. Case in point – this blog! I basically have Facebook and Twitter open on my computer all day, and I hop on any affordable opportunity to attend workshops and conferences to learn more about Social Media. But I’m still not convinced that this tangled web of an electronic world is how I’m going to meet my partner in crime.
I did some research on what attracts humans to one another. Is it as simple as the coffee theory? I found some interesting and entertaining information, particularly in an article published in 2006 by Live Science called “The Rules of Attraction in the Game of Love”. My favorite part:
Body shape is of course important, too. And scientists have some numbers to prove it. Psychologist Devendra Singh of the University of Texas studied people’s waist-to-hip ratio (WHR).
Women with a WHR of 0.7—indicating a waist significantly narrower than the hips—are most desirable to men.
And an analysis of hourglass figures of Playboy models and Miss America contestants showed that the majority of these women boast a WHR of 0.7 or lower.
In general, a range of 0.67 to 1.18 in females is attractive to men, Singh concluded in a 2004 study, while a 0.8 to 1.0 WHR in men is attractive to women, although having broad shoulders is more of a turn-on …
What exactly is encoded in the hip ratio? A big fat clue to whether the person will have enough energy to care for offspring.
Where fat is deposited on the body is determined by sex hormones; testosterone in men and estrogen in women. If a woman produces the proper amount and mixture of estrogen, then her WHR will naturally fall into the desired range. The same goes for a male’s testosterone.
People in the ideal hip-ratio range, regardless of weight, are less susceptible to disease such as cardiovascular disorders, cancer, and diabetes, studies have shown. Women in this range also have less difficulty conceiving.
“The idea is that beauty is conveying information about health and fertility, and we admire that,” Singh said in a telephone interview.
Okay, okay … so I’m attracted to this part of the article, because, well I got a big butt and I cannot lie … and my hips don’t lie either! I can totally see a correlation here with coffee. Terms used to describe coffee: full bodied, smooth, sweet, spicy… by gosh, I think I’ve cracked the code!
Alright, I ain’t cracked nothin’, except my head from thinking way too hard about all of this fascinating subject matter. But I guess, no matter how you meet, you’re attracted to what you’re attracted to. The avenue of how you get to meeting those people is your own personal destiny; digital or otherwise.
Ho do you like your coffee, mate?
Also, depends on the flavor of coffee… I like mine dark -hardly any cream. But not bitter. Maybe that means I like men who are deep thinkers and optimistic.
Commenting about online dating sites, I would have to say that Match.com has been successful for two of my friends in finding those special ladies in their lives. Match.com can’t be all that bad because my two friends have been successfully married for over seven years to those ladies that they had met through their online dating site.
I like mine dark with some sugar – what does this mean, my bachelorette working woman role model?